A Guide to Understanding Introverts and Extroverts

There is no question about the fact that everybody is different. Everybody has their own way of expressing themselves and communicating with others around them. Some people are attracted to social situations whereas some are attracted to the peace and solitude of their bedroom for hours at a time. While some see those who prefer to be on their own as loners, others see those who are attracted to social gatherings as someone who likes to engage in a large set of seemingly fake and shallow conversations.

The Right Way of Living

It is important to note that no way of living can be called “correct.” According to Carl Jung, a prominent Psychiatrist from the mid 1920’s, there are 16 different personality types.  Studies were conducted that researched the percentage of the population that certain personality types fall under. It has been found that the most common personality type only makes up about 10-13% of the population. This means the most common personality type you come across is only represented in about 1 out of every 10 people. Some types are as rare as 1-3% of the population. This means that if every single person with the most popular personality type was to vote for their personality type as being right, they could not even come close to winning a majority vote.

Introversion vs. Extroversion

It is a challenge for an extrovert to understand the mind of a person with a preference for introversion. It also works the other way around. A person who is introverted prefers to focus on the inner world of thoughts, ideas, feeling and memories. Being alone helps them process this information so that they may recharge their batteries. They have the ability to look deep within themselves and spot potential flaws that they have. This ability to look within does not come easily to everybody. Those with a preference for introversion have the capability to become extremely intelligent without others even knowing. Some more about introversion will be discussed later in the post. Extroverts are usually very talkative. They think out loud which sometimes can sound like they are talking too much. It is often an unconscious process that happens during a conversation. Extroverts use conversations and debate to surface the opinions of others. They are recharged by being in a whirlwind of activities that involve people, places and external stimuli. People with this preference also enjoy having large social networks of friends. Often times they seek popularity to extend their social circles.

Introversion Communication

Extroversion Communication

  • Must have information drawn from them by someone else
  • Discussion is usually slow moving
  • Need time to think before speaking
  • Use shorter sentences and do not use run on sentences
  • Do not barge into conversations
  • Quieter volume of voice when speaking
  • Less Eye contact when speaking
  • Must pause while giving information


  • Usually end up dominating the conversation
  • Decisions are made quickly and their mind is changed often
  • Ask lots of questions and tell people what they want
  • Appears to think out loud
  • Louder volume of voice when speaking
  • Makes eye contact when speaking
  • Rapid speech when explaining something

 Complications in Communication

When an introvert and extrovert communicate, there are definite differences in their styleas shown by the chart above. Since extroverts dominate the conversation and speak rapidly, an introvert may have their thoughts interrupted during the extrovert’s rants. It takes a while for someone with an introverted preference to think and process a situation and sometimes an extrovert can seem very bossy and pushy. On the other hand, an extrovert may get impatient with and introvert because it seems like they are taking too long to answer a question. Introverts are often misunderstood by extroverts because they do not have the same bubbly, outgoing nature that many extroverts show to others. When an extroverted person observes a person who does not exhibit this behavior back in a similar way, this can be taken offensively by the extrovert. It is not taken as disrespect because the introvert was being disrespectful; it is because the extrovert did not understand the introvert style of communication.

People are More Alike than They Come Off to be

Introverts and extroverts are always going to have issues communicating. Both partiesnaturally do things that the other party does not like. It is only with education of these two preferences that someone can overcome this barrier. When you understand this information, it becomes more apparent that most people don’t have anything against others but their behavior can make them come off like they do to certain people. An introvert and an extrovert can have very similar hobbies and not get along with each other simply because they communicate inefficiently with each other. Both introverts and extroverts have an enormous amount of information they can share with the other side. It just does not make sense for that to remain only a possibility because it “seems” as though one does not like the other. Go out and look for these characteristics in real life situations. After some time of observing, you will start to see the trend of introversion and extroversion. Next time you see someone talking so much that others are getting bored; chances are that they are an extrovert. Next time you are talking with someone who just does not have much to say and they pause alot, chances are they may be an introvert. It is by understanding these differences that we grow and gain a sharper perception of the world we live in. Below is a podcast we did explaining Introverts vs. Extroverts “We are the Young Life Perception”

Be sure to check out our podcast at www.younglifeperception.com

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